Be Honest About Yourself In Dating
- Posted on 29th March 2011
- in Articles, Dating, Women
- by Amy Stewart
At the start of a totally new relationship, things are all incredibly fresh and fun.
Many women feel that they want to charm the man they have been starting to date so much that they get started with lying straight out of the gate.
The reason that they tell a lie is that they are scared the guy would not really like who they are.
Women frequently lie concerning their past romances.
Again, that fear takes hold and women are concerned about exactly what he will think by telling the truth about those earlier relationships.
Now, that is not to say that you should all out tell every little detail of your earlier relationships at all.
In actuality, you really want to avoid that topic completely if you can help it.
Here is the problem with what may seem like a simple little fib at the beginning of your relationship.
When you are getting to know a man in the early stages in the romance, it is as if you are constructing a foundation.
When that basic foundation contains a bunch of lies in it, it is definitely not rock solid and guaranteed to split and come down.
This is similar to building a house on sand rather than a sturdy cement foundation.
Some ramifications of a lie are significantly worse than being truthful from the beginning.
You will appear fake and superficial.
It is possible you have merely been aiming to make yourself look better to him by telling some things.
But in actuality, you will discover that you seem very unattractive.
You undoubtedly have to be able to be who you are around him.
A relationship is not really worth chasing after if you cannot simply be yourself.
Of course, obviously whenever you are first dating you do not want to tell him almost everything about yourself.
But if just a bit of your quirkiness or being goofy comes out, that is okay and then you could possibly gage his response to just a bit of that side of your personality.
Observe his facial expressions and what do they tell you?
Watch to determine if he laughs at certain aspects about you.
The end result is just to be genuine.
Do not need to tell lies to make yourself seem more desirable.
You should always remember that you should never feel like you need to compromise a part of yourself in order to feel loved.
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